When we begin life, we all show signs of inexperience. There would not have been fun in life if we all had an understanding of how things work and what to expect from certain actions we take. The mistakes of life make it fun, brings pain and glory as the case may be. And this is why we are humans.
As a youth, we might have experienced failure in some areas of our life. And this might have affected our self-esteem and how we see ourselves. Our ego might be hurt, and we feel less positive about the future.
At the end of this post, you will understand how to handle the failures you face in your everyday life, and move from failure to the successful person you want.
How to handle your failures properly as a teenager
To begin with, the way you go about handling failure determines if you are bound to fail again or not.
- Your mindset
To handle your issues properly, you must have the right mindset. You must be willing to improve and work on the areas you have challenges. Understand that everybody has a challenge. According to Robert Schuller, No life is problem free. When you have the right mindset, you’d be able to face your challenges again.
- Understand the cause
Life is a cause and effect thing. When you understand this, many things will no longer bother you as they used to. Why did you fail? Is it as a result of inadequate preparation (for instance, for your exams), is it as a result of circumstances beyond you? (E.g. Your health). When you know the cause, then you’ve found the solution to your problem.
- See the positive
I’m not going to sit here to tell you it feels good to fail, but I can say there might be positives to take away from it (even though it’s very difficult). If you failed an exam, you must have had an experience in sitting for that exam, when next you take the same exam, you wouldn’t be scared of the exam (especially when you have worked hard this time around). You now know what not to do and what you must do. You now have an experience which should make subsequent exams simpler. Thomas Edison failed for a record 999 times, and when asked, he said he found 999 ways of not doing it. That is a positive. Learn from the great inventor.
- Prepare better
The six P is important. Proper Prior Preparations Prevent Poor Performance. When you prepare well, you wouldn’t fail. This isn’t only applicable to school exams, but also to every area of your life. Failing to prepare is the same thing as choosing to fail.
- Be confident
Most people fail again and again simply because they are no longer confident in themselves. You must be confident you can achieve success in whatever you find yourself. Being confident in yourself would give you a positive mental picture of who you want to become, and this will, in turn, give you the zeal to become who you want to be.
In the end, you must not let this setback get into your head to cause depression, get back up, see the positive and start preparing for a better opportunity which would come in no time.