5 Habits You Must Not Indulge In As A Teen

5 Habits You Must Not Indulge In As A Teen

It’s easier not getting involved in a habit than breaking it. As someone wisely said, the chains of habits are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.

As a teenager who is just starting life, it is very easy to get carried away by the supposed pleasures derived from various acts than to see through it and understand the dangers in them.

Habits are those “simple” acts we get involved in every now and then, either publicly or secretly. You know your habits, and deep inside, you know what danger or risks (or not) it is posing to you.

Habits can either be positive or negative, and this post is about the negative habits you must not indulge as a teenager (even as an adult).

Four habits dangerous for you

The list of habits you must not indulge in isn’t limited to these, but this is a good place to start from, getting addicted to these might not show negative signs at first, but truth is, sooner or later, you’d start seeing the adverse effects of these habits in your life and how you relate to others.

  1. Drug Abuse:

Many teenagers are getting addicted to the use of drugs. From stimulants to un-prescribed drugs, hemp etc. drug abuse has never had more youths getting involved in it than it’s having now. The effect of drug abuse is grave and your life might be completely destroyed because it’ll take time to rehabilitate you.

  1. Pornography

From a very tender age, kids start seeing pornography due to their early exposure to the internet and free access to it in some countries (and very affordable access in most others). When you get engaged in pornography, you won’t know what harm you are doing to yourself until you find yourself by default punching your keyboard keys to several porn sites. Many individuals cannot live without seeing a pornographic video every day and this affects productivity during the day. Like drugs, it’s addictive because it is similar to drug use too.

  1. Alcoholism

This post isn’t to discuss if alcohol is good or bad, you decide that yourself. But if your choice is to take it, then you must know when to stop. It’s difficult advising youngsters these days to be teetotalers, but they must know the workload excess alcohol does to your body system. Taking alcohol might feel good, but be sure not to get addicted. It is very easy to get carried away with the belief that it takes away your pains, but you should realize these pain returns to you once you are sober.

  1. Smoking

Remember the popular saying, “Smokers are liable to die young”? Most people no longer take that saying seriously again, maybe because most of the smokers they know are still alive, almost hale and hearty. Does this negate the fact that smoking is dangerous? No! By getting addicted to smoking, your teeth suffer your lungs, internal organs, lips, body smell etc. Whatever pleasure derived from smoking, do your best to get it by other means and not smoking.

There is much other stuff you must not get involved in, (even if your parents or models are into it), but to retain the simplicity of this post, I’ve stopped at just five of them. Of course, it is easy to get carried away by peer pressure, but you must have opinions and take decisions of your own.

Balancing Schooling And Education

Balancing Schooling And Education

As a teenager, it is very important to understand schooling and education. Many people mistake both and this has made both of them become ineffective.

Education has been mistaken for schooling and vice versa. Once you understand that both are different and you place them in their respective places, you would no longer continue to make the same mistake most people make.

Schooling is simply what you go to obtain within the four walls of a school, from the beginning of your time as a toddler to the last certificate or degree you bag. It is the continuation of the age-long tradition of dubbing ideas into students, the principles propounded by scholars, scientists etc.

Education is chasing your personal values, goals and dreams. Learning and doing what you know and are convinced is your mission on earth. It is a personal thing and cannot be taught in a school. You get educated by learning and doing (by yourself).

Education is improving on your gifts and talents and using them to improve the world you live in, improve those around you and let those who come in contact with you feel the positive vibe you let out.

Education is self-discovery, self-realization and self-actualization. Education is simply self-development.

None of them is less important. As a teenager, you must (if possible) acquire both. While you attend school, you must find those things you love to do, your gifts and talents and seek to put them to good use.

To be schooled, you get enrolled in a junior, senior high school, a college (or university) etc., to be educated, you must discover your calling and build yourself into it. Education as against what is generally believed is not taught in schools (basically). It is a personal thing. No one can determine the pace of your education but you.

To be educated on the other hand isn’t as direct as to be schooled is, this is because everybody have their different paths which they must take to become who you truly are meant to be. Education is improving yourself beyond where a school can. It sometimes builds on the foundation laid by schooling.

What are those skills you find unique to yourself? Brush yourself up. It is in the process of brushing yourself up and doing or practicing these things you discover who you truly are.

Read books, meet with people, socialize with those who already are what you want to be, get mentors, attend seminars, take courses, these are all paths to your self-development and evolution, from the current you, to the better you.

Education improves on what schooling brings to the table. Do all you can to build yourself beyond the four walls of a school. It’s fun and fulfilling.

If you love swimming for instance, learn all you can to swim, Michael Phelps is educated in swimming, Usain Bolt is educated in using the tracks, Ben Carson educated himself in Medicine, (as I said above, education sometimes build on the foundation laid by schooling, as is the case of Ben Carson).

There are several other examples, you know of them. Do not limit or restrict yourself to what a university can teach you. Education is beyond that. It encompasses what you can teach yourself, help others improve, leave a print in the sand of time and change the cause of history.

Seek education today as much as you seek schooling.

How To Handle Failure As A Teenager

How To Handle Failure As A Teenager

When we begin life, we all show signs of inexperience. There would not have been fun in life if we all had an understanding of how things work and what to expect from certain actions we take. The mistakes of life make it fun, brings pain and glory as the case may be. And this is why we are humans.

As a youth, we might have experienced failure in some areas of our life. And this might have affected our self-esteem and how we see ourselves. Our ego might be hurt, and we feel less positive about the future.

At the end of this post, you will understand how to handle the failures you face in your everyday life, and move from failure to the successful person you want.

How to handle your failures properly as a teenager

To begin with, the way you go about handling failure determines if you are bound to fail again or not.

  1. Your mindset

To handle your issues properly, you must have the right mindset. You must be willing to improve and work on the areas you have challenges. Understand that everybody has a challenge. According to Robert Schuller, No life is problem free. When you have the right mindset, you’d be able to face your challenges again.

  1. Understand the cause

Life is a cause and effect thing. When you understand this, many things will no longer bother you as they used to. Why did you fail?  Is it as a result of inadequate preparation (for instance, for your exams), is it as a result of circumstances beyond you? (E.g. Your health). When you know the cause, then you’ve found the solution to your problem.

  1. See the positive

I’m not going to sit here to tell you it feels good to fail, but I can say there might be positives to take away from it (even though it’s very difficult). If you failed an exam, you must have had an experience in sitting for that exam, when next you take the same exam, you wouldn’t be scared of the exam (especially when you have worked hard this time around). You now know what not to do and what you must do. You now have an experience which should make subsequent exams simpler. Thomas Edison failed for a record 999 times, and when asked, he said he found 999 ways of not doing it. That is a positive. Learn from the great inventor.

  1. Prepare better

The six P is important. Proper Prior Preparations Prevent Poor Performance. When you prepare well, you wouldn’t fail. This isn’t only applicable to school exams, but also to every area of your life. Failing to prepare is the same thing as choosing to fail.

  1. Be confident

Most people fail again and again simply because they are no longer confident in themselves. You must be confident you can achieve success in whatever you find yourself. Being confident in yourself would give you a positive mental picture of who you want to become, and this will, in turn, give you the zeal to become who you want to be.

In the end, you must not let this setback get into your head to cause depression, get back up, see the positive and start preparing for a better opportunity which would come in no time.